Along with Bri Emery’s heavenly DESIGNLOVEFEST blog, there’s another place I often inspiration for sharing my creativity through design. That place is A Beautiful Mess by Elsie Larson. Recently Miss Elsie Cake and her team created their very own app, which I was quick to purchase for $.99. It’s pretty cute to see how ecstatic the team is at how fast their app has become a success. In a previous post I let you all in on a little secret – I wasn’t sure if I wanted to start using text in my instagrams. However, after browsing through all the instagram photos captioned with #abeautifulmess I couldn’t help but become inspired.

So, what was I going to create?

I waited a few days until something felt really right. While looking through my “following’ list on instagram, I re-discovered a profile that I felt really hadn’t posted for a while and decided to investigate.

@ThisIsHowYouWinHerBack hadn’t posted in two months. It’s the “Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. Boy messes up. Boy cleans up the mess, realizes what he’s lost, what he’s gained, who he is, what he wants” account of an anonymous dude trying to win back his ex by putting up posters all around New York donning a quote they’d shared. I personally found this utterly romantic, (almost as lovely as DESIGNLOVEFEST’S FLOWER BOMB – #iDie) though much of the internet seems to find it utterly ridiculous <— eff them.


While scrambling around his tumblr to try and find the outcome of these love posters, I uncovered a piece of advice I, myself had been waiting to hear for a while now:

November 10, 1958

New York

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.




And that’s when I created this:


I don’t know if @ThisIsHowYouWinHerBack found the girl he was looking for, but maybe he found something better.

Writing about him this way feels very “You’ve Got Mail” and in the end Tom Hanks gets the girl.
& the girl gets the boy, too.

  1. O says: June 4, 201311:50 pm

    Closure is important.

    • admin says: June 5, 20132:22 am

      Closure is important. Whether it’s necessary, I’m not sure. Those who say it isn’t may have created it for themselves, or may have never moved on. Those who say it is may be too quick to move on, or may find it necessary. Will we ever find out what happened?

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